In
a previous article I explained that we as parents have more experience
that our children and therefor want to teach them a thing or two. I also
said that gay children can teach their parents a thing or two about
their unique situation because nobody can fully understand the gay life
if you're not gay. Straight parents should try to understand their gay
kids by listening to them without prejudice. As with all other
relationships communication is the key.
Listening to your child is not the only way you can try to understand his/her life. There are numerous resources available that can help you to understand your child better. Unfortunately not all information is accurate and in some cases it is downright homophobic propaganda. The moment a book, website, pamphlet, or individual starts to talk about healing your child you should be very careful. As said before, according to the American Psychological Association (the largest psychological organisation in the world) all examples of treatment that aims to change you child's sexuality are socially harmful to your child. One of the books available on this issue, that talks about healing your family, is nothing more than outdated information with outdated methods of treatment that can harm your child as well as your family. If you want to buy a book on this topic from an established website you should always have a look at the reviews if its available. In the reviews on the book I mentioned there are numerous reports of how this book's method hurt a lot of families. So be careful for some resources.
On the other hand there are great books, websites, and pamphlets available that can truly help you to understand your child and the situation you and your family are dealing with. PFLAG is an organisation that helps a lot of parents throughout the world. Members of PFLAG are family members of gay people just like you and they went through exactly the same things you are going through so do yourself a favour and Google them. You won't only find a list of responsible books to read; you might even get information about a branch of PFLAG in your area. If there isn't a branch of PFLAG near you they could probably direct you to another support-group in your area. These people will help you to understand because they were in your situation previously.
Sometimes it is just easier to talk to others that went through the same issues you have. After all, you are not the first person that went through this and maybe others could explain it to you much better than I can. You would be amazed to know how many people are gay, and how many families had to go through this. A support group might be just what you need.
Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Brand_DoubellListening to your child is not the only way you can try to understand his/her life. There are numerous resources available that can help you to understand your child better. Unfortunately not all information is accurate and in some cases it is downright homophobic propaganda. The moment a book, website, pamphlet, or individual starts to talk about healing your child you should be very careful. As said before, according to the American Psychological Association (the largest psychological organisation in the world) all examples of treatment that aims to change you child's sexuality are socially harmful to your child. One of the books available on this issue, that talks about healing your family, is nothing more than outdated information with outdated methods of treatment that can harm your child as well as your family. If you want to buy a book on this topic from an established website you should always have a look at the reviews if its available. In the reviews on the book I mentioned there are numerous reports of how this book's method hurt a lot of families. So be careful for some resources.
On the other hand there are great books, websites, and pamphlets available that can truly help you to understand your child and the situation you and your family are dealing with. PFLAG is an organisation that helps a lot of parents throughout the world. Members of PFLAG are family members of gay people just like you and they went through exactly the same things you are going through so do yourself a favour and Google them. You won't only find a list of responsible books to read; you might even get information about a branch of PFLAG in your area. If there isn't a branch of PFLAG near you they could probably direct you to another support-group in your area. These people will help you to understand because they were in your situation previously.
Sometimes it is just easier to talk to others that went through the same issues you have. After all, you are not the first person that went through this and maybe others could explain it to you much better than I can. You would be amazed to know how many people are gay, and how many families had to go through this. A support group might be just what you need.
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