Love is a beautiful thing... isn't it? A lot of people will be upset that I even ask this kind of question.
You must be crazy Jim! Am I really that far off?
I have seen people fall in love, but I have also seen a great deal of people fall out of love. You see the popular perception normally is that once you find the right partner, you will live happily together for the rest of your life. It's this storybook romance that makes us believe in love, let us hold onto it and make us take the risk of being hurt again.
Now if I made this statement in a heterosexual relationship context, many people would agree, or give me some kind of recognition because we are all born into this world to find the right man/woman and make lots of babies!
Ok that sounds right doesn't it, but what about the the "other" real world. What about a world, where not everybody is destined to lead this kind of life? What about the world where we, the gay and lesbian couples, come into the picture, the gay/lesbian reality, the unspoken world where society does not linger upon. Can we know what love is, can we commit or are we just another category among the damned sex-offenders like rapists, child molesters and bestializers. Are we only a sick group of men that just want to get into other guys pants or even worse want to seduce all good clean straight men all the time?
That's where society is screwed up! We have exactly the same human needs as the rest. We also crave love and not just lust. We also dream of getting old with somebody special, a soul mate that completes us. Society likes to reduce us to a sex-mad group of sick people, but we also need somebody that takes care of us, loves us and enjoys our company and want to spend the rest of her/his life with us. Yes, we have our sex-maniacs, sex-offenders, rapists, molesters and criminals, but not more than the heterosexual community has, in fact, according to unbiased research we have less of those in the gay/ lesbian community.
The problem is that if people tell you you are bad, you tend to become just that. Research also shows that we have more broken and less lifelong relationships than heterosexuals does, but isn't it because society drove us into a secret sub-society that has to pretend to be something that we are not. We couldn't get married up until a while ago and in some places we still can't. We were forbidden to publicly confess our love to a soul-mate, to a large extent we still are.
And yet; that is not our first choice. My experience as being a gay man myself is that we do crave a happy marriage, we do cry, we do hurt, we do bleed, we do get dumped, we do have painfully bad relationships and we do not want to die alone, and many of us also have babies and children we really care about.
What happens if we try and find a long term relationship? We are been looked upon with a skeptic eye, nobody thinks that we can have a lasting relationship. Hell, even we believe that we can't! We do not get any guidance from our parents on this matter. Imagine a father telling his son to hold onto his boyfriend, or a boss giving you a day off, because you just lost your same-sex partner. Duh!!!This is not going to happen! Why do we settle for these kinds of perceptions and just sit back.
Why don't we talk about our relationships? Can't we start guiding each other, give hope to youngster about love, start to believe in ourselves and our ability to hold on to a lifelong relationship? We do have the experience don't we? Let us share it! Start exploring our relationships in the manner it could be. We love just the same as others, and our relationships are based on the same basis of all Cosmic Rules. We are also human and we have exactly the same needs, problems, questions and sorrows.
I am posting this article in a predominantly hetero-sexual page for your eyes to see, remember, the next homosexual person you meet might just be your son, your daughter, your brother, your sister, your father, your mother or your best friend. We need you, the heterosexual community, to realize that we are just like you in all but one aspect of our existence. That is why I have the utmost respect for Paul Newman, a heterosexual just like you, who said: " I'm a supporter of gay rights. And not a closet supporter either. From the time I was a kid, I have never been able to understand attacks upon the gay community. There are so many qualities that make up a human being... by the time I get through with all the things that I really admire about people, what they do with their private parts is probably so low on the list that it is irrelevant."
You must be crazy Jim! Am I really that far off?
I have seen people fall in love, but I have also seen a great deal of people fall out of love. You see the popular perception normally is that once you find the right partner, you will live happily together for the rest of your life. It's this storybook romance that makes us believe in love, let us hold onto it and make us take the risk of being hurt again.
Now if I made this statement in a heterosexual relationship context, many people would agree, or give me some kind of recognition because we are all born into this world to find the right man/woman and make lots of babies!
Ok that sounds right doesn't it, but what about the the "other" real world. What about a world, where not everybody is destined to lead this kind of life? What about the world where we, the gay and lesbian couples, come into the picture, the gay/lesbian reality, the unspoken world where society does not linger upon. Can we know what love is, can we commit or are we just another category among the damned sex-offenders like rapists, child molesters and bestializers. Are we only a sick group of men that just want to get into other guys pants or even worse want to seduce all good clean straight men all the time?
That's where society is screwed up! We have exactly the same human needs as the rest. We also crave love and not just lust. We also dream of getting old with somebody special, a soul mate that completes us. Society likes to reduce us to a sex-mad group of sick people, but we also need somebody that takes care of us, loves us and enjoys our company and want to spend the rest of her/his life with us. Yes, we have our sex-maniacs, sex-offenders, rapists, molesters and criminals, but not more than the heterosexual community has, in fact, according to unbiased research we have less of those in the gay/ lesbian community.
The problem is that if people tell you you are bad, you tend to become just that. Research also shows that we have more broken and less lifelong relationships than heterosexuals does, but isn't it because society drove us into a secret sub-society that has to pretend to be something that we are not. We couldn't get married up until a while ago and in some places we still can't. We were forbidden to publicly confess our love to a soul-mate, to a large extent we still are.
And yet; that is not our first choice. My experience as being a gay man myself is that we do crave a happy marriage, we do cry, we do hurt, we do bleed, we do get dumped, we do have painfully bad relationships and we do not want to die alone, and many of us also have babies and children we really care about.
What happens if we try and find a long term relationship? We are been looked upon with a skeptic eye, nobody thinks that we can have a lasting relationship. Hell, even we believe that we can't! We do not get any guidance from our parents on this matter. Imagine a father telling his son to hold onto his boyfriend, or a boss giving you a day off, because you just lost your same-sex partner. Duh!!!This is not going to happen! Why do we settle for these kinds of perceptions and just sit back.
Why don't we talk about our relationships? Can't we start guiding each other, give hope to youngster about love, start to believe in ourselves and our ability to hold on to a lifelong relationship? We do have the experience don't we? Let us share it! Start exploring our relationships in the manner it could be. We love just the same as others, and our relationships are based on the same basis of all Cosmic Rules. We are also human and we have exactly the same needs, problems, questions and sorrows.
I am posting this article in a predominantly hetero-sexual page for your eyes to see, remember, the next homosexual person you meet might just be your son, your daughter, your brother, your sister, your father, your mother or your best friend. We need you, the heterosexual community, to realize that we are just like you in all but one aspect of our existence. That is why I have the utmost respect for Paul Newman, a heterosexual just like you, who said: " I'm a supporter of gay rights. And not a closet supporter either. From the time I was a kid, I have never been able to understand attacks upon the gay community. There are so many qualities that make up a human being... by the time I get through with all the things that I really admire about people, what they do with their private parts is probably so low on the list that it is irrelevant."
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