In
this article I would like to show parents of gay children where the
biggest threat to your family lies, and how you can protect your family
against it. I am also a parent of two beautiful children and like you
the dangers that threaten my children in today's world really scare me.
Child molesters, abductions, drugs, and date-rape really scares me if I
look at my children. You just don't know how you are going to protect
them against all these things. When they were babies the biggest threat
was that someone might steal them. Then they become teenagers and the
threats just doubles. Like you I have realised that the threats doesn't
stop there. Even if they are adults starting their own families you
still fear the many things that might threaten their lives and their
happiness.
What do you really want for your kids? If I am honest with myself I must admit that being the best in academics or sport isn't really the thing I wish for my children. Off course it is nice if they do well in sports, but ultimately you want them to be happy right? When I was a kid parents always said you can be whatever you want to be as long as you are the best at it. I often wonder about that. I don't think I agree with that. At the end there can be only one best isn't it? I changed that wish for my children. I always tell them that they can be whatever they wish to be as long as it makes them happy. After all, in many cases the best doctor isn't necessarily the happiest doctor.
Don't get me wrong; I don't think you can be happy if you do not give your best, but being the best isn't equal to being the happiest. I would like to see my children happy. I would like to see them in happy relationships, happy job situations, and I would like to see them in their own happy families. So what would be the worst threat for my kids? I think anything or anyone who steals my kid's happiness is the biggest threat of all. Protecting my family is not just to help them survive; it's much more; it is to help them to have happy fulfilled lives. If I can give them that or if I can protect them against anything that threatens their happiness I would feel that I was a successful father.
So, you are the straight parent of a gay child, what do you think will threaten your child's happiness?
You guessed it. You are the biggest threat against your family. If you can't accept your child for who he/she is, chances are that your child will never be well adapted, will never be at peace with him/herself, and would always struggle with the biggest threat against family life - I am not good enough for my parents.
Research showed over and over again that a good self-image is necessary to become a well adapted and well self-actualized adult. The biggest stumbling block in the way to a self-actualized person is being rejected by your parents.
Scott Peck, author of the Road less Travelled said that the most important thing to be happy is to be at peace with yourself, with others, and with God (however you define the core of your spirituality). In my mind the process towards being at peace with these three starts with the day you realize your parents are at peace with who you have become. If my parents are happy with me, I can take on the world.
This is true for all kids, but in this regard your gay child is unique. A gay child has to face more rejection from society than any other child. The last thing he or she needs is your rejection on top of that.
What do you really want for your kids? If I am honest with myself I must admit that being the best in academics or sport isn't really the thing I wish for my children. Off course it is nice if they do well in sports, but ultimately you want them to be happy right? When I was a kid parents always said you can be whatever you want to be as long as you are the best at it. I often wonder about that. I don't think I agree with that. At the end there can be only one best isn't it? I changed that wish for my children. I always tell them that they can be whatever they wish to be as long as it makes them happy. After all, in many cases the best doctor isn't necessarily the happiest doctor.
Don't get me wrong; I don't think you can be happy if you do not give your best, but being the best isn't equal to being the happiest. I would like to see my children happy. I would like to see them in happy relationships, happy job situations, and I would like to see them in their own happy families. So what would be the worst threat for my kids? I think anything or anyone who steals my kid's happiness is the biggest threat of all. Protecting my family is not just to help them survive; it's much more; it is to help them to have happy fulfilled lives. If I can give them that or if I can protect them against anything that threatens their happiness I would feel that I was a successful father.
So, you are the straight parent of a gay child, what do you think will threaten your child's happiness?
You guessed it. You are the biggest threat against your family. If you can't accept your child for who he/she is, chances are that your child will never be well adapted, will never be at peace with him/herself, and would always struggle with the biggest threat against family life - I am not good enough for my parents.
Research showed over and over again that a good self-image is necessary to become a well adapted and well self-actualized adult. The biggest stumbling block in the way to a self-actualized person is being rejected by your parents.
Scott Peck, author of the Road less Travelled said that the most important thing to be happy is to be at peace with yourself, with others, and with God (however you define the core of your spirituality). In my mind the process towards being at peace with these three starts with the day you realize your parents are at peace with who you have become. If my parents are happy with me, I can take on the world.
This is true for all kids, but in this regard your gay child is unique. A gay child has to face more rejection from society than any other child. The last thing he or she needs is your rejection on top of that.
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